“It’s not until recently that I’ve actually disclosed to my family and friends that I was struggling with this illness for so long. My immediate family didn't really know. ”
Families can exist in many formations and sizes. It isn’t always a parent, brother or sister that a person feels most able to talk to about their problems. They may choose to talk to a grandparent, aunt, cousin, or family friend, or school/work friend. The important thing is having someone to talk to.
If you notice behaviour changes or feel like something is not right with your loved one, reaching out first often helps. The way in which you help can vary, depending on your relationship with the person. Knowing how and what to say to someone in distress can help them greatly. Even if they deny they have a problem at first, they may agree to seek help in time.
Many Australians experience mental illness in their lifetime. As family members, partners and friends, we can all do our part to support our loved ones through these times. Sometimes the best thing we can do is listen without judgement, ask what is going on for them, and help them to access professional support.
In supporting a family member, it is important to look after yourself as well. Take a look at our pages on support for carers, as well as connecting with family and how to support someone. We also have resources below to help you get started.
A closer look
Mental illness can affect family members
Seeking support as a family can bring benefits
Three generations under one roof is becoming more common
Various cultures can have differing needs for care and support
Family is not always just biological for everyone
Being with my son has been incredibly helpful. He is completely present, and it helps me get out of my own head. There's no pretension or fear - he is 100% here and it's awesome.
At first, I had a lot of judgement from my husband’s family. There's a lot that wasn’t accepted or dealt with appropriately. But because we've been so candid and honest about our experiences, they have actually changed.
Both my brothers have bipolar, as well as myself. My dad probably had it, and my grandfather too. We've got a strong dose in our family, but the susceptibility definitely runs down the generations. My mum's pretty incredible, to cope with us all, as you can imagine.
You might find online and phone-based mental health resources helpful. Some suggestions are below. You can find more with our Search tool.