Supporting parents

What can I do?

There are no quick fixes for mental health issues, but there are definitely things you can do to provide support. What’s most important is taking the time to find what’s right for you.

This page gives a brief overview, and at the bottom you’ll find some websites where you can go for more detailed information and advice.
You are not alone; other people have experienced what you are experiencing. Below you’ll find some forums where you can learn from people with similar experiences.

“It's easy to burn out. Caring for a family member is not like working from 9-5. It goes on day and night, it’s non-stop. That's why self-care is so important. ”
Jo

Overview

It can be challenging when you have a parent with a mental health condition. Family relationships may be more stressful, and you may find that your parent is unable to be there for you when they are mentally unwell.

In some cases it can feel like there's a role reversal going on. You may be caring for your parent(s) and managing the house, either on your own or with your sibling(s). This can mean excess chores, cooking, shopping and housework, or even administering medication. You may be missing out on some of your own development, whether it's social time with friends, school activities, space for yourself, or emotional support.

If you have not told someone about your situation yet, reaching out for help can be a good first step in learning how to cope. Families in this situation benefit from having extra support – like counselling, and help from the community. There are support services and carer organisations that can help you and other family members handle difficult emotions and situations, extra housework, school or work responsibilities, and more.

It is important to look after yourself as well. The resources below have information and advice. We also have pages on support for carers and how to support someone.

A closer look

Many Australians have parents with mental ill-health

Nearly 1 in 4 young people live in families where at least one parent lives with a mental health condition. That is more than 1 million children in Australia. Children in this situation may face additional challenges at home, yet they can still have positive mental health and wellbeing. (Source)

You are not to blame

You may experience feelings of guilt, anger, shame or sadness over what your parent is going through. While this is understandable, it is important to know that their mental health condition is never your fault, and your behaviour or words are not the cause. (Source 1) (Source 2)

Taking good care of yourself helps everyone

Practising self-care helps you, and it helps your parent too. Eating well, sleeping well, exercising, and minimising alcohol and drugs are great ways to keep yourself healthy in body and mind. Self-care also includes relaxing and doing activities you enjoy - like catching up with friends, playing sport, listening to music, or walking your dog. (Source)

Recovery from mental illness is possible

The road to recovery can look different for everyone, and there will be ups and downs. Some people can have episodes of being mentally unwell and then get better, while others can learn to manage their symptoms and go on to live a satisfying and contributing life. (Source 1) (Source 2)

There is a positive side to being a young carer

4% of children and 10% of teenagers are young carers, though many do not identify with that title. Through home caring experiences, young carers can become highly equipped with life skills and strong self-esteem, as well as being resourceful, practical, resilient, and independent. (Source)

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Page last updated 12th December 2017

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